As you can imagine, this whole thing has been both heartbreaking and totally overwhelming.
I am feeling sort of paralyzed right now…. Like, I have no idea what to do next.
So, if anyone out there has been through a similar situation, I’d be most appreciative of ANY advice/tips/reccos you are…
Ugh. I am so sorry. If it helps, my sister had a similar situation (a tree fell on her house during Hurricane Isabelle and crushed her roof). Her house took several months to put back together, but in the end she was able to put it back and make it even better with the insurance. She just focused on the positive and gave herself alot of leeway during those hard, temporary living months.
Was just reviewing my posts from almost a year ago. I did hate my old job so much that I cried sometimes when I thought about it. Now, after a year at a new job, the memory is really faded and it … , well it was bad. But the negative feelings have definitely faded. It’s amazing how much feeling valued makes a difference.
Any good recommendations for office holiday party wear? My office party is a formal sit-down dinner with a cocktail hour before? What should I wear?
What you wear to holiday parties should really depend on the general vibe of your office and where they’re taking everyone for the party. Since you’re doing a cocktail hour with dinner (and not an hours-long drink fest in the back room of a lounge somewhere), I think you might want to err on the side of being a little more work-appropriate.
This J.Crew Factory stretch wool peplum dress ($98 from $118, extra 30% off with code BIGSALE) is very holiday-friendly, but still work-appropriate. Add more makeup than you’d usually wear to work—a smoky eye or some darker lipstick—and some killer shoes like these from ZARA ($99). You can bring along a moto jacket and throw it on over the dress if people go for out for drinks after dinner.
Another option is this J.Crew Factory scalloped lace top ($64.50). You could wear it with skinny trousers or ponte pants (or—for a more edgy look, coated denim). Add some drama with green drop earrings ($42, Kenneth Jay Lane). Do a soft wave in your hair—so pretty!
One of the most simple, chic things to wear to holiday party is a sequined tank, blazer and simple pants—either tailored trousers or skinny trousers or ponte pants or whichever you feel will be most appropriate. Add pointed toe pumps and jewelry and you’re done. I like this sequined tank from ZARA ($49.90). It’s a great outfit for two reasons: First, you can lose the jacket if things start getting crazy after everyone has a few drinks in them. And second, you’re wearing actual pants and an actual jacket so you won’t necessarily freeze trying to catch a cab home.
Don’t forget to check the Rent The Runway suggestions on this post too.
I’m on week 7 of Couch to 5k. It’s been going pretty well. I’m going to try out another way to get me running. The Runners World Holiday Running Streak. One mile a day every day until July 4. 2.8 miles today!
I am very tired of waking up at 4am and not going back to sleep because I start worrying about any number of things. For example: not having enough money, the house not being clean enough, not having enough sex with my boyfriend, not being pretty enough, not being thin enough, not being good enough, etc, etc, etc…
Today I am going to make a list of the things that cause me anxiety, narrow it down to the important ones and find some concrete ways to reduce my anxiety about them.
cosign. the finger-wagging about all this stuff is ridiculous, and functions solely to make sure that every single mother-to-be feels that whatever she’s doing, it’s not good enough. you ate a piece of deli meat? your baby’s not getting into julliard, too bad. you expressed any level of anxiety or…
I know, I have a co-worker who is expecting and everyday she seems to mention something else she is not supposed to do. It must be exhausting.
“The hardest period in life is one’s 20s. It’s a shame because you’re your most gorgeous and you’re physically in peak condition. but it’s actually when you’re most insecure and full of self-doubt. When you don’t know what’s going to happen, it’s frightening.”—
I never thought I would say this, but … I am very glad I am through my twenties, intact, with no permanent damage done, no children, no ex-husbands … and only one tattoo. ;)
So I have a friend - an acquaintance really - who is inviting me to her wedding in October. I found it a little strange since I haven’t really talked to her aside from Facebook status comments (the last time I saw her in person was last fall), but I figured she’s just having a big wedding and…
In my opinion one gift is enough. If I attend a shower and bring a gift I never feel obligated to bring a gift to the wedding or bachelorette. If you’re not that close, don’t feel obligated to attend any of the events or send them a gift.
No, there is no right way. You just have to do whatever it is that you do to move on. Some people reminisce and others disparage it to no end. That being said, it’s probably better if you don’t torture yourself by reliving the it too much. I’ve always done that after breakups as well.
Why is it that with the ending of a relationship, some people focus on its flaws, but others (me) focus on everything that was right together? I do this EVERY TIME. It seems like it would be easier to view a newly past relationship in a harsh light (maybe of reality, or maybe of pessimism), but I can’t bring myself to do that. It seems disrespectful to what we had. Am I just making things harder on myself?
Starting on Friday, I’m headed to the ashram (again, yes, again) in upstate New York. Hopefully it will center me, allow me to regain my focus, and perhaps speed the process of moving on. I’m trying so hard … I’ve planned this upcoming trip to New York, then back for a big family celebration (including my brother and his wife) for my mom’s birthday, then a week in LA, and an intensive improv class here in Chicago. I’m throwing myself into work, both with the column and other items (um, I rewrote my entire press kit last night.) I organized my bathroom cabinets. I played with my dog. I watched Gossip Girl & GLEE. I talk to three or four friends every day. I’m trying, but it’s up and down, up and down. Some days are good. Others (like today), not so much.
I promised myself I wouldn’t grieve publicly, mainly because, while I don’t mind if you see the pain, I don’t really want him to know. So I go back and forth between finding writing/talking about it highly therapeutic and trying to put the whole thing out of my mind, pretend it doesn’t exist and (as my mother suggested) “fake it till I make it.”
I’m not sure which is the “right” way. Is there one?
I’m glad someone finally said it. I’ve been worried about those two women. You know it’s only a matter of time before he turns on them. He is one of the actors that I grew up with and it has always been a puzzle to me why people ignore his violent behavior towards women and he remains a popular actor. The media ignores it to a point that all the women who have accused him of violence are made to look stupid.
In reality, he’s never been that good an actor. The few good movies he’s been in were probably given to him because of his dad. And, in real life he’s just an asshole with most likely a tiny dick.
Incredibly interesting Op-Ed Piece in the times about the “highly unsympathetic” women involved in the Charlie Sheen debacle and how their “objectification and abuse has been not only accepted as an occupational hazard for [these types of] women, but something that men like Mr. Sheen have earned the right to indulge”
I don’t eat a whole lot of seafood. I mean, I obviously eat sushi whenever I can get my hands on it, and I make that Shrimp Saffron Pasta at least once a month…but other than that, the only thing I really do is bake a solo piece of salmon whenever Kendrick’s more interested in…
I would suggest cellophane bags of goodies tied with a pretty ribbon. That would be more manageable for 80 people and take less cookies to fill per bag than tins. Mom’s idea of trays in the copy room are a good idea. Just put a little card with them that says Happy Holidays for everyone! Here are some easy recipies I like.
Q. I work at a school and want to bring in some Christmas Desserts (cookies, cake pops, fudge, etc) for everyone but there’s about 80 people! Any good suggestions? I guess I could narrow it down.. but i don’t want to be rude and not include anyone ya know? I wanted to do small plates of goodies…
I’m traveling halfway across the country to be with my family for the next few days. In the meantime, please enjoy this post from my Cary Randolph of fresh every day fame. If you don’t have a total girl crush after reading her blog, then I find you strange.